why we lie

I realise that people lie, all the time. I really don’t want to be the one to lie, but I guess some people just lie. To be modest, I would say that I just don’t volunteer the information. One particular reason that I notice is that people lie to look good both to their selves and others. As soon as people feel that their self-esteem is threatened, they immediately begin to lie.

Not all lies are harmful. In fact, sometimes lying is the best approach for protecting privacy and ourselves and others from malice. But bald-faced lies (whether they involve leaving out the truth or putting in something false), are harmful, as they corrode trust and intimacy—the glue of society.

Many animals engage in deception, or deliberately misleading another, but only humans are wired to deceive both themselves and others, researchers say. People are so engaged in managing how others perceive them that they are often unable to separate truth from fiction in their own minds.

Feldman study, published in the Journal of Basic and Applied Psychology, found that 60 percent of people had lied at least once during the 10-minute conversation, saying an average of 2.92 inaccurate things. I remember that when I was in college, I wrote that 50% people in my life lie about what they were saying. That is why; there were and still no high expectation toward others.

It turns out that men lies no more than women, but they tend to lie to make themselves look better, while women are more likely to lie to make the other person feel better. We want to both look good when we are in the company of others (especially people we care about), and we want to protect our self-worth.